Toaster Tips
A few pointers for a great wedding speech
Giving a wedding speech? A little preparation makes it easier to share your story, celebrate the couple, and enjoy the moment. Here's what we'd love you to know before you pick up the mic.
When and where
Your DJ will confirm the timing, speaking order, and microphone location before introductions. Speeches are usually right after the first dance, and the wireless mic is usually on the couple's table. Check in with your DJ before introductions so you know the plan for this wedding.
Before the wedding
Aim for 3-5 minutes.
Choose one good story and a heartfelt wish for the couple. Practice out loud with a timer, including pauses for laughter.
Use paper. A small notebook is classy.
Your phone can lose your place, light up with notifications, rotate, or lock at exactly the wrong moment. Print your speech in large type, use short paragraphs, and number the pages.
Celebrate both newlyweds.
Help everyone enjoy the story by giving a little context. Keep humor affectionate and leave exes, private details, and embarrassing revelations out of it.
Before your name is called
Have your notes and drink ready.
Bring your drink with you so you have something to raise! Set it within reach while you speak instead of juggling a glass, notes, and microphone.
Check in with the DJ.
Confirm your name pronunciation and where to stand. Tell us about any surprise, audio clip, or special plan ahead of time. Save the celebratory drinks until after your speech.
When you have the microphone
Keep the mic close.
Hold it a few inches from your mouth and aim it toward your mouth. Keep it there when you turn toward the couple. At chest level, your words can be hard to hear.
Stay near the couple.
We'll help you find your spot. Staying nearby lets you speak to them and helps the photographer capture you and their reactions together.
Go straight into your opening.
The DJ has already introduced you and your role. You can skip 'For those of you who don't know me...' and begin with your story or a warm opening line.
Slow down and pause.
Give people time to laugh. If you get emotional or lose your place, take a breath and look at your notes. There's no need to apologize.
Finish with a toast and a hug
Tell everyone when to raise a glass.
A simple 'Please raise your glass to...' followed by a wish for the couple gives your speech a clear ending.
Then go give them a hug.
Let the congratulations happen before heading back to your seat. Give the photographer a moment to capture it, and follow the DJ's direction for the microphone.
Notes ready. Mic close. Drink nearby. Finish with a hug.